She is eloquent, amiable, bold and dark-skinned. One thing about her she never has any regret about is her complexion. According to her, she never bleached her skin before and she pities those who do. “Why should I bleach my skin? I never tried it before and I would never do it. Those who did are regretting it today and it is difficult to remedy the skin when it has been burnt and battered,” she said, as a matter of fact.
Guess who she is? Ayo Yemisi Jaiyeola, the chief executive officer of Serendipity House Nigeria and God’s Wives International! In her Maryland, Ikeja office, she talked about her journey of life with boldness. She first and foremost described herself as a woman of many parts. “I used to be a wife. I’m now a widow and be that as it may, I still get involved in everything that has to do with women because I’m proud of being a woman and I would do everything possible to project womanhood in the right perspective,” she nodded.
Aside from being the CEO of Serendipity House Nigeria and God’s Wives International which is strictly for widows, “I have initiated another organisation which is Women in Money with branches all over Africa and this financially educates African women,” she enthused.
This amazon asserted that Women in Money educates women to be prepared for life hazards, so that none would be taken unawares. “Every woman must prepare for the time of adversity because it must come. Whether there is something tangible in your hand now or not, remember there will be a time it would not be there. Even if you are married to a very rich man, know that the man may not be there forever. Oh yes, he may not be there,” she paused, remembering her late husband. She gathered herself together and continued: “As I was saying, what I always like to teach women in my initiatives is what I titled ‘What is in Your Handbag?’ Every woman carries a handbag – big, bold and beautiful handbags. But when you look into the bags, you discover that they may not have more than one hundred naira in those bags.
What I’m trying to say invariably is that most women are poor; they don’t have money of their own. They think it’s enough to have a man who would provide everything. It’s a pity that over 75 per cent of women reason this way and it is a big blunder. Yes, the blunder that blinds and makes them believe that as far as men in their lives are alive, they won’t have problems. That’s a big lie!”, she asserted.
Buttressing her points, she gave some reasons: “Women date men who dump them. They marry and bear children for men who later leave them with nothing. They are alone to themselves, sleeping by the roadsides, squatting with friends, going back to their mothers’ house and things like that,” she said, sulking. “We should stop being over-dependent on men. Just imagine, the other day, a lady told me that her husband married a second wife because he said he was an African and he was, therefore, entitled to that? But the painful aspect of it is that she was asked to leave the house, her matrimonial home. She doesn’t have a mother or father she could go to.
Hence, she is now squatting with a friend; sad!” “The problem is that some men appear to us (women) as angels, but they are truly demons. They fake their looks as if they are angels because they want their women to feel that they are being visited by angels, just to have their way. And the moment they have their way, everything is gone! Men have a way of getting back all that they have given to women. Even in marriage, for instance, a man who used to give his wife 100,000 naira in a month now starts giving her N25,000 every month, he is taking back what he gave the woman. Before you know it, the money is reduced to N10,000 per month and he is slipping away gradually and you don’t know,” she said. What then is the way out? “I want women to be financially empowered.
That is the way out. I say this not because I’m very rich, but I’m sounding this way because I have had my own experience; I have had my own losses. My advice to women is that we should be educated and be able to network together; let’s see where we can help ourselves,” she concluded.
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