Michelle Dan-Osherire is one interesting personality you would love to meet. She studied Theatre Arts and later on, International Relations at the University of Benin. She is from Delta State. “I come from the foremost family in Delta State,” she said, smiling. This duchess of fashion said she was comfortable being a woman in a society where women are expected to work double to prove themselves. “Well, I’m comfortable being a woman; I would rather be a woman than a man because I normally tell ladies and everybody who cares to listen that although we are in men’s world, whether we like it or not, but God gave us (women) a virtue while He gave the menfolk power. Let’s be contended with the virtue He gave to us and not try to opt for power. When you seek power, you would not be happy as a woman, you would not be satisfied because it is not our God-given role. A lot of women are so desperate to acquire money and power these days that sometimes, it makes me feel bad. I believe that the only role God gave a man is that of his ability to go out there and make money, keep his family, comprising first, the woman and then, his children. We should not take over, but follow their footsteps, help to actualize and maximize their potentials, to make their dreams come alive. If you have a man, he should be your king, whatever he is wearing, he is the crown and you are there to polish and make it shine, so that others would respect him and your family. That is the virtue I’m talking about,” she nodded. This woman of substance is of the opinion that women shouldn’t vie for power. But does that also include women who are bread winners in their homes? “That is what I’m saying; it is because we are reversing the roles. How many of us are really happy in those roles? How many people appreciate you for that? The men don’t appreciate you for feeding them. Do you know why? They didn’t ask you to do so. Okay, tell me, as a woman, between you and I, what role did God give to a man on earth than to look for money?”, she quipped. But some of them don’t have…”Yes they may not have the money or connections, please link them,” she cut in.
“That is where you would be appreciated because no matter how much you are making or what you have, he would still go out there and do what he wants and you would be hurt. Because he is using his power against you and there is nothing you can do about it. If you recognize that aspect, then let him do what he ought to do. That is the only job he has on earth, the only Job God gave to him. If he likes, let him go to his creator and say he cannot cope with life, but no woman should take over his place and try to do his job for him because he would not appreciate it. They never do,” she said, as a matter of fact. If a man does not have money to run his home, “you should connect him as a wife to people that would help him. Your place is to teach and assist him to get to where he wants. Find out what he wants to do, where he aspires to get to. If you have the enablements as a virtuous woman, assist him to get there, but not to usurp his position,” she counselled. That’s a good advice, you may say, but honestly some women are having horrible marriages, being battered by their husbands and yet, they stay and would be dying in silence because of what people would say. Her take on that is, “We really have to redefine our purposes and our goals when it comes to relationships. In such a battered relationship, you know what attracted you to the man. If what attracted you to him is the wrong thing, you would get such. I have equally seen men who have abused women go through counselling and they have now stopped. There are people you can call for help. You suffer in silence because you refuse to reach out to those who can help you. The man could be angry because he is frustrated and he is taking it out on you. That is what we get most times. I’m supposed to be successful, I am not and you are doing well. You know the ego of men is as big as the whole wide world,” she nodded. Talking about men’s ego, what are those things women unknowingly do that prick their ego? “You puncture their ego when you try to usurp his authority. When you are hardworking, it becomes a problem. He would become very sensitive with everything. He will be on the defensive all the time; it’s not a conscious thing; it’s natural because the roles have been reversed. He does not like the role he is playing with you in the home. He knows he is not a female and your abilities are making him look as if he is a female. A woman in authority and power is every bit abusive. Don’t forget that our respect for men over the years has to do mostly with the fact that we rely on them financially. When we no longer do that, we tend to become overbearing sometimes,” she asserted. The way we appear as married women matters too! When you are shabbily dressed most of the time, our men may not be proud to take us out.
“Yes, you are right. That’s a big mistake some women make because the marriage platform gives you the right to look hot and sexy for your man. Married women should dress well and look gorgeous for their husbands. Turn his head and the heads of others around you on,” she giggled. Still talking about fashion, guess what this style icon does whenever she wants to steal the show and stand out on the red carpet? “I wear anything that makes me feel sexy and comfortable. At least, if I attend a grade A event with my man by my side, I would rather be turning men’s heads my way. If some other females are turning their heads to him, I get some other people looking at me because I look good and sexy. He could just stand by the side and look for excuses to get angry or jealous,” she said, laughing out loudly. Her opinion on the Nigerian fashion industry is not far-fetched. “To be fashionable in Nigeria is like a lifestyle. You know God is beautiful. He fashioned everything in heavens and earth beautifully. God loves beautiful people. Have you seen how he blesses those pastors that look good? That goes to show you that God is indeed beautiful. Nigerian fashion sense is improving daily. I think we are improving in our fabrics, styles and sophistication daily. Nigeria, in the next five to seven years, will be the fashion capital of the world. We will take over from Paris,” she asserted.
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